Spend some time learning about masculinity, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence and challenge yourself to think about your own ideas and attitudes. The Resources page has some ideas for self education.
Although most men will never be violent, we all need to examine ways we might try to control women. Do we dominate conversations? Do we put them down? Do we limit their activities?
In a survey for Amnesty International in the UK, over 1 in 4 respondents thought a women was partially or totally responsible for being raped if she was wearing sexy or revealing clothing, and more than 1 in 5 held the same view if a woman had had many sexual partners.